Have you ever met a hater who's
doing better than you? Me neither.

Hey, now it's this Saturday
side hustle. It's Dave Lorenzo.

I'm here solo because it's Saturday.

Today we're talking about
haters and the grind.

So I want to start off by sharing
a little something with you.

I had an incident happen to me this week.

That's something that I guess
it happens from time to time,

but I'm always relatively
surprised when it does,

and that's that my success is tied
to the success of somebody else

in a particular organization
that I'm a part of.

I'm a volunteer in an
organization and I get a lot of

value out of being a member of this group.

I volunteer to help out other people
because it's good for the group.

It also is good for me, raises my profile,

and I get a lot more value out of the
group because I volunteer to help others.

Well,

my success is tied to the person
who's the paid employee who

runs this particular part of the group.

So every time I help somebody in
the group become more successful,

this person also gets
credit for the success.

And if I bring somebody
new into the group,

this person makes money as a result
of the people that I recruit.

And I am perfectly fine with that.

And I've realized from the beginning that
this person's success would be tied to

mine. And I embraced that,

and I knew that I'd be making
this other person successful and

I enjoyed it.

And I continue to enjoy helping
people become successful.

So in coaching other volunteers,

the other volunteers will often ask me how

I get along so well with this person.

And actually they did ask me how I got
along so well with this person until this

particular week.
And I would say I make them

successful as often as
I can. They look good.

I don't take credit for a lot of the
stuff that goes on behind the scenes

because it doesn't matter to me. I
get what I want out of the group.

It's very rewarding, it's very
fulfilling. So I don't care. Well,

this week something
really interesting and to

me at first, annoying, hurtful,

and absolutely aggravating happened.

I got an email from this person and
the email stated that we had had

a discussion and I had made some
recommendations for some processes

that the organization could put
in place to prevent some mistakes

that had been recurring.

And the email that I got
said that my recommendations

were appreciated,

but I needed to realize
that regardless of what I

recommended, this person was going
to do what they wanted to do.

And then there were a couple
of pointed words in there about

how at the end of the day,

they were ultimately the person
who was going to make all the

decisions,

and I should not overstep my bounds

and assume that my recommendations
were just going to be

adopted.

I thought to myself initially,

why would you put this in an
email to someone who's not

getting paid,

not receiving anything
other than satisfaction

for helping you? Now, to make
a long story, even longer,

the recommendations I was making
were along the lines of leadership

recommendations, recommendations that
would make this person a better leader.

Because the person themselves has not,

they don't have any leadership experience.

They have some management experience
of managing processes and systems,

but they don't have a lot
of leadership experience.

I happen to have some
leadership experience.

So I was sharing my
thoughts on leadership to

help this person, to keep this
person from making mistakes,

the same mistakes they had been
making over and over again.

So I was surprised when I got
this email surprised and hurt and

aggravated,

and I took a step back and I actually
discussed it with Nicola. We had a long

conversation about it, and I took a
step back and I thought to myself,

here's the thing.

This is coming from a place of
insecurity and jealousy on the part

of this person,

and I shouldn't really
give it any thought.

I shouldn't really be concerned about
it because there's nothing I can do to

change it.

And all they've done is
liberate a significant amount of

my time because I'm certainly not going
to invest any more time in helping this

person.

So they liberated a significant amount
of my time to do other things that are

more important to me.

And that to me was the huge takeaway from

this.

It's that I can't control how
other people feel about me,

but I can control how I react to it.

So my decision and recording
this today is my way of closing

the door on this is getting
closure and putting it behind me.

My decision today is
to just let this go and

not be around this person
anymore than I have to be,

not help this person anymore
because clearly my help is

breeding some sort of resentment
in them and let them succeed or

fail on their own. Now,

how does this message about haters,

how does it fill in? Or how does

this message about haters
lead to my thoughts

about the grind? That was
the title of today's show,

haters in the Grind.

The reason that people are envious
of you or they're jealous of you

is because of what you've accomplished
and because of what you've achieved,

and you've achieved what you've achieved
because you're doing things that most

people won't do.
And that's where the grind comes in.

Everybody wants the success, but
they don't want to do the work.

When you tell them what
it takes to be successful,

they're going to say to themselves, well,

there's got to be a shortcut because I
don't want to do that in the case of this

person.

I don't know if it's that they don't
want to do it or that they can't

do it,

or that they just resent the fact
that it wasn't their idea to do it.

But all three of those are deadly.
And you as an entrepreneur,

can't let any of those three things

creep into your mindset. If you
see a good idea from someone else,

and you can replicate that in your
business and it's going to make you more

successful,

you need to do it regardless of
whether it was your idea or not.

Nobody cares whose idea it was.
They just care about the results.

So take that idea and implement it
immediately. If somebody offers you help,

the best thing you can do is say Thank
you and take their assistance and don't

resent them because they know
something you don't know.

The second point of that is
that if you don't have the

talent to do something, bring in people
who do have the talent and rely on them.

That shows that you're smart. It
shows that you're resourceful.

It shows that you know
how to get things done.

And then the third point about that
is most of the people who are envious

and resentful of you, most of
the people who are your haters,

they can't put in the work
that you're putting in.

And I'm going to tell you
about the week that I had.

I'll tell you about the
week that Nicola had.

We were talking about this yesterday.

She put in 70 hours this week
working on a couple of cases,

and we still found time yesterday to
record a couple of episodes of the show.

I put in 70 hours of work in the
business in our business, and I traveled.

I was in Washington dc. I
did a half-day seminar there,

and I flew to Detroit, did
a half-day seminar there,

and I flew home and still
put in 70-plus hours

in our Business working
on the business this week.

And I'm up at 4:30 AM doing
this because it's something that

I do as part of fulfilling my
commitments to my business,

fulfilling my commitments to you. I'm
recording this at 4:30 AM on a Saturday.

Other people aren't going to do that,

and that's one of the key
elements that makes the haters

hate.

So I've resolved myself to this really

crystal clear vision,

and this vision is that my
mission in life is to give

my haters new reasons,

to envy my success every
day. Think about that.

You should make it your mission too. Take
this hate and turn it into motivation.

We talked last week about being
a savage, and if you're a savage,

do you care what your haters
think? No. You know what you do?

You just run through
them to get to the goal.

You don't let them get in
your way. You tear them apart.

So my mission in life is to
give my haters a new reason

every day to envy my success.

That's what I'm here for. That's
what you should be here for.

This is a Saturday side hustle.

Join us tomorrow for the Sunday special
where we're going to share with you

all the stuff we got done this week in
our business so that you can model that

behavior and you can become
the envy of your haters.

We'll see you tomorrow.